If we have somebody in common I will say so and stop, and I check
- Looking for
- somebody outside the circle, which in this city takes actual effort
- Experience
- Fourteen years, three dynamics, all of them long.
- Around
- Didsbury, Manchester
I do not get involved with anybody who is socially adjacent to me, and in Manchester that rules out a great deal. It is not squeamishness. I have twice watched an arrangement end and then had to live through eighteen months of the same people asking careful questions at parties, and it was bad for everybody, most of all for the person who had done nothing wrong except be visible.
The app is no help. It shows you a face and a distance and nothing about the web either of you sits inside. So I ask, early and without ceremony: what do you do, where do you spend your Saturdays, which parts of town do you know. Two or three answers and I usually have my map.
Forty eight, Didsbury, dominant, fourteen years in, three dynamics and none shorter than two years.
What I run is ongoing and unspectacular. Written expectations, reporting on a schedule, correction that is a conversation rather than a performance. I am slow at the start and take responsibility for nobody in the first month.
Not looking for anybody who finds the caution insulting, since it is aimed at protecting you rather than me. Not looking for a person who wants a title before we have met. Not looking to be impressive on a screen.