Three people have read two messages and told me what I am
- Looking for
- somebody who asks rather than diagnoses
- Experience
- None. Five months here and three unsolicited verdicts.
- Around
- the west, London
Each of them was confident, each of them was different, and each of them arrived after roughly two messages from me. One told me I was obviously submissive and simply frightened of the word. One told me I was clearly the other thing and had been socialised out of it. The third told me I was not really interested in any of this and was looking for therapy, which was said kindly and made me put the phone down for a week.
Thirty one, the west, and new to all of it.
I do not think any of them was being malicious. I think this place rewards quick reading, and a person who has not decided is an uncomfortable object, so people resolve it on your behalf.
What I would like is somebody who asks questions instead. I have plenty of material to work with: things I have noticed about myself, things I have wanted for years without a name, a few things I am fairly sure I do not want.
Not looking for a verdict. Not looking to be corrected about my own experience. And not looking for anybody whose interest depends on me turning out to be a particular thing, because I might not, and I would rather find that out now.