One word in my bio and the account was gone for eleven days
- Looking for
- somebody who understands why everything here is written sideways
- Experience
- Seven years, two dynamics, one that lasted three years.
- Around
- the east, London
Something automated read my profile in February, decided one word in it was against the rules, and removed the account. Eleven days of appeals, no explanation, and when it came back every conversation I had was gone. The word was not explicit. It was a perfectly ordinary term for the sort of arrangement I want, which is apparently enough.
Thirty eight, the east, submissive, seven years in, two arrangements with the longer one running three years.
The consequence is that everybody on here now writes in a kind of code, and half the misunderstandings on this board are people guessing wrong about somebody's careful phrasing. It is a strange thing to have to describe what you want in words chosen to survive a filter rather than words chosen to be understood.
So this post says it in the plainest language I can manage. I want an ongoing arrangement with clear authority in it. Rules about ordinary things. Reporting. Correction that is spoken rather than physical. Nothing about what I want would trouble anybody who read it in full.
Not looking for anybody who wants to test the edges of what can be said in a chat window. Not looking to rebuild a conversation that took me a year, so I would rather move to meeting sooner than I used to. And not looking for someone who will read the code and assume the worst version of it.