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Four minutes on each profile, so about twelve people a week

Posted as four_minutes, 19 August 2026

Looking for
somebody who would rather be read properly than seen quickly
Experience
Ten years, three dynamics, all of them slow starts that lasted.
Around
the west, London

I read everything. All the photographs, all the text, twice if it is interesting, and then I sit with it for a moment before deciding. It takes about four minutes, which means I get through roughly a dozen people in a week while everybody around me is doing hundreds. I am aware this is an absurd way to use a machine designed for speed and it is the only way I have ever found anybody worth finding.

Forty three, the west, switch, ten years in, three arrangements with the longest running six years.

The cost is that I miss almost everybody. There are certainly people I would have liked who scrolled past while I was reading somebody's third paragraph. I have decided I do not mind, because the alternative is the version of this I did for two years, which produced a great deal of activity and nothing else.

What I want is one arrangement, either direction, with real structure: a fixed evening, standing expectations, contact through the week.

Not looking for anybody who wants a quick decision from me, because you will not get one. Not looking for a profile that is three photographs and a shrug. And if I write to you, I have read the lot, including the part you added at the bottom and forgot about.

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Which direction is on the table this month is not in the post, and asking flat out reads badly. That takes a conversation, and a conversation needs a room you can walk out of.

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